The usual twists and turns that life throws out? The pain of unexpected drama? The pleasure of down-time with friends and lovely holidays? How was your 2018, asks Jess Baker, and what do you want your 2019 to look like?
Christmas is naturally a time for reflection. But the flipside of taking stock is looking
forward. At the end of the year, it’s standard to find ourselves considering questions pertinent to the year ahead. You might want to boost your confidence; make more time for yourself; or shake things up in your career or personal life. By having a specific plan you are much more likely to achieve your goals.
I love the days between Christmas and New Year’s Eve. I tend to spend Betwistmas walking off the home-made mince pies, catching up with friends in the local pub by the open fire, or lazing in my PJs watching The Muppets Christmas Carol for the hundredth time. It also supplies the perfect moment to review the past 12 months and decide what you want your 2019 to look like.
By detoxing the drama and letting go of any residual negative emotions you’ve been carrying around with you, you’ll find it easier to move forward with the life you deserve. We tend to seek immediate gratification (download this Free Guide to a Better You Now!) and quick-fix solutions (Detox in 5 Days and lose 10lbs!), but face the facts: these are often unhealthy, unhelpful and unrealistic.
Instead, I propose you take the pressure off trying to be perfect and be more realistic about what you want and how you are actually going to make it happen. You’ll enjoy the journey a lot more this way too.
Put the kettle on, grab your favourite journal and a pen, and allow yourself 30 minutes to answer these simple but effective lifestyle review questions below.
They’ll get you thinking about what you want, what you need, and more importantly, how you want to feel. Not just for 2019, but for the next three years.
Taking positive action towards achieving your goals, even just tiny steps every day, is the best way to boost your self-worth; keep your inner critic at bay; help you make better decisions; and feel more in control of your life.
If your Inner Critic is saying, ‘don’t bother doing this, it’s rubbish and a waste of time’, please remember three things. First, your inner critic always says this any time you try improve yourself or your lifestyle. Second, that almost everyone else reading this article is having exactly the same thought; it’s unhelpful but it’s normal. And finally, you can make the conscious decision not to listen to it. It’s time to claim the life you truly deserve.
The lifestyle review questionnaire
If you’re up for a lifestyle review before January, here are some questions that might help you to think ahead to 2021. Considering each question will gently take you through a powerful reflection process. There are no right or wrong answers. You can think big, or be pragmatic: whatever works for you.
- What is going well in my life at the moment?
- What things do I already have that make me feel good about myself?
- What three positive feelings do I want to experience by 2021? e.g. more joy, love, relaxed, calm, energised, grounded, confident, etc
- What things do I need to have in my life to help me feel this way?
- What changes do I have to make? Consider, for example, the different aspects of your life such as: income, career, socialising, health and exercise, creativity and personal growth etc.
- What resources do I need to implement these changes? For example, to manage my time better; find extra income; work with a coach to help me let go of unhelpful thoughts and self-sabotaging behaviours etc.
- What small action can I take in 2019 to move me closer to my goals? For example, make a to-do list and stick to it; create an additional income stream; make more time for my friends; find a coach I can work with etc.
- Who could support and encourage me to achieve my goals? Consider perhaps finding a friend; mastermind group; or coach. It is easier to work towards your goals when someone else is holding you accountable.
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